what I wore: you always seem so happy + a giveaway

sweater: target (similar), chambray: f21 (similar), jeans: nordstrom (similar), boots: famous footwear (similar), necklace: groopdealz (similar), belt: thrifted, watch: no longer sold (similar)

(for the giveaway scroll to the bottom)

A few weeks ago I was sitting in my classroom waiting for school to start and the group of people around me start talking about being stressed.

They talk and talk and someone turns around to me and says

“You always seem so happy. Do you not have any stress?”

My reply was to the extent of, well yes I have a lot of stress in my life, but I have been trying really hard to not let it affect me.

There have been many times in my life were stress has overwhelmed me and really taken control of my life.

It’s not something to brag about, and it’s not something I’m proud of.

I used to think that I wasn’t able to control the stress and that it was just something that I had to deal with.

The problem is
I used to get stressed out so easily.

Things that I couldn’t control would stress me out.

Not having a plan would stress me out.

School

Work

House Work

Friends

People

You name it I was a constant ball of stress.
So much that I thought I had an ulcer.
Ends up I didn’t, it was just really bad stomach pains, constant headaches, you name it.

I decided to take hold of this stress.
It wasn’t doing anything for me except making me feel sick.
At first it was really hard to ignore the things that would normally have me stressed out and I had to work at it.

For me it helps to think about the bigger picture.
I think about how I can change the situation that is stressing me, if I can change it.
And if I can change it easily I’ll fix it, but if I can’t fix it or change it, then there is no reason to stress.

Does it affect me?
Will the outcome really be that bad?
Can I ask for help?

Ask your self these questions.
Don’t be over dramatic.
Honestly answer them.

Whatever.
I don’t care.
It doesn’t bother me.

These are my new phrases.
Because in reality, I really don’t care about something that is stressing me out.
It can’t bother me because I can’t change it, so whatever.
I know this all seems like a bunch of rambling on, but it really has helped me to just put these stressors out.

What triggers your stress?
Find it and get rid of it, or stay away from it.

You have a choice, choose to be happy.

I wish you luck with your stress.
Please feel free to email me if you have any questions or just want to talk.
alyssadawsonblog[at]gmail[dot]com

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Now for the giveaway!
As you already know I am an avid crocheter.
It’s my most favorite hobby.
A few years ago I decided to open an etsy shop and fill it with my handmade crochet items
and Alyssa Dawson Design was born.
Today I’m giving one of my ear warmers away!
Perfect timing for the holiday season or to keep yourself!

My gift to you! (:

Good luck!

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