what I wore: friends and bullying

shirt: thrifted (the limited), jeans: kohls, shoes: famous footwear, earrings: the limited, necklace: nana, bracelet: az humane society

*This is not a pity party, this is me talking real, because real things happen*

I’ve never been one who has had a lot of friends.

In fact, in high school I didn’t really have a specific group of friends that I hung out with.

I was more of the floater friend.

Lets call it an acquaintance.

I was friendly with everyone, but I was never really included in “group things”.

There was one specific time when I was younger, about 12, I had just moved to a different house so everything was different for me.

I was in a new school, church, and neighborhood.

I didn’t know anyone.

There was a time when I was invited over to a friends house for a sleepover.

During the sleep over the girls were being so nice to me and talking to me and including me in everything.

It was so nice!

The next day at church I went up to the girls to talk to them and they completely ignored me.

I thought it seemed weird so I talked to the girl who I was closer with to ask her what was going on.

She told me that the girls weren’t being my friends, they were making fun of me and being sarcastic about being my friend.

My heart sunk.

I never had been a receiver of bullying,

(well there was a time in kindergarten where a boy pulled a chair out from under me as I was sitting down.)

but I knew it was real.

These girls were the true mean girls.

This is where the 12 year old me started questioning things.

In my old ward the girls were so nice, they included me in everything so it was surprising to me that church girls could be so mean.

To this day I don’t talk to those girls, I don’t know where they are, but I know that they continued to be bullies.

I write this post because

bullying is real.

It’s out there and so many people are victims of it.

It makes me sad to see children commit suicide because they are always teased.

If only they had a friend who really cared and treated them the way they should be treated.

More stories on bullying later, trust me, this was only the beginning for me.

Have you ever stood up for someone who was bullied?

Were you bullied when you were younger?

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Jennifer says
April 1, 2013 at 11:28 pm

Great post. I know exactly how you felt. I was the girl that was made fun of too. It sucked. I never felt accepted by the girls I spent my entire elementary school career with. Some of them ignored me even more in middle and high school.
Lourdes says
April 2, 2013 at 12:07 am

I have never really personally experienced bullying but I have seen it from afar.

I was the same as you. I am kind of a loner, so I was an acquaintance to everyone.

I am so upset that you experienced bullying. I am in shock and am questioning why people would do such a thing.

XO Lourdes
Susannah says
April 2, 2013 at 2:07 am

Oh sweety, I'm sorry you went through this. After my family moved back from Taiwan, I was bullied too. Thankfully, two years later, we moved again and I was able to make real friends.
Sara says
April 2, 2013 at 2:10 am

I've been on the end of bullying. Throughout middle and high school, I was so naive and a "doormat" that I just smiled and brushed it off like it was no big deal. I was the one on my own, but talked to everyone like they were my friend until I made the one girl friend that I could tell anything to because we both were on the same end of the stick.

Regardless, I'm so sorry that you went through this. As a teacher, I see bullying ALL. THE. TIME. Have you seen the movie, Bully? It's heart-wrenching but is bringing the bullying situation to light, since so many people turn their cheeks and pretend nothing is happening.

Stay strong, girl. You are beautiful, courageous, kind, and sincere – anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend!

Sara
Miss V's Busy Bees
ventrellasara@gmail.com
Jessica says
April 2, 2013 at 4:40 am

This is a great post. I remember once in middle school a "friend" of ours had a birthday party. After a while it was very apparent who the cooler of the girls were. They played a really mean prank on us. The girls mom didn't do anything to stop it, even after someone got really upset. I remember having the worst feeling that night. I couldn't understand why these girls would act like that. It's so beyond me to why people treat each other like that.
Laura @ Chaotic Domestic says
April 2, 2013 at 12:30 pm

I appreciate your honesty. This is a great post and it is a real problem. I was bullied when I was in fifth grade. I was fortunate to find a new group of friends and then when we went to middle school I had the chance to start over. Looking back, I know I was lucky and that things ended up working out for the best. I learned how to make new friends and I think I ended up in a better place because of it.
justjacq.com says
April 3, 2013 at 6:46 pm

I was the same way in school– kind of the floater friend. I thought it was me, and it was a bit of me, but I've realized as I've gotten older that I just didn't click with anyone too well. The people I did stay in touch with since high school are few and I'm really really close with them. I kind of prefer it that way– only being friends with a few people– because then those friendships are extra close and special.

I had similar experiences with bullying as your story and I think that's also part of why I wasn't super close with anyone. I was so afraid of rejection that I didn't put myself out there to be a friend or to try out for any of the things I wanted to get involved in. Looking back I can see instances where someone wanted to be my friend and I thought they were just trying to make fun of me.

One of the sad thing about bullying is it isn't limited to kids. Adult bullying exists and it's lame.
Ashley @TheCreamToMyCoffee says
April 3, 2013 at 9:17 pm

Your story makes me so mad – how can kids act like that?! It makes me think about being a parent someday and how I hope my children will never be bullies or bullied, but I know that is not realistic. I'm so glad you shared this story, because it is such a real thing! I'm sorry you had to go through that, but I think it's awesome that you are willing to share about it!
My Thrifty Chic says
April 3, 2013 at 9:37 pm

Thank you for sharing this! Bullying is a huge problem and has always been, even in adulthood I witness it. I'm glad more people are speaking out about it! Thank you for linking up with the Anything + Everything blog hop! I hope you'll come back next week 🙂

xo Tori
http://www.mythriftychic.com